Bullying can be helped in many ways. Bullys on the steeets are most difficult but i think all bullys become who they are because of the way they were brought up. If the focus on good parenting was bigger less bully’s would be around, with a good upbringing comes a good child. I think the government should provide more money to help creating parent support organisations for first time parents and organisations that help all parents with troublesome children, giving adive on how to dicipline children and how to help them become mature, level headed young people. these organisations could be linked to the NHS so that it starts from as soon as the child is born and be compulsory for all parents to be in contact with. Too many mothers, young mothers espechially do not know how giving their children a poor upbringing can create a horrible bully without them even knowing it. Bullying in schools is too often ignored, schools could try alot harder to stop bullying. After a reported bully is identified this bully should be involved in a scheme where they are made to realise how bullying can have very serious effects on young people and how they could be pushing a young person to even commit sucicide when they just think its a bit of a joke. Too many bullys in schools are not reported to their parents. As soon as a child is reported as a bully their parents should be informed and and changes in the home environment that should be made to stop the young person being a bully should be identified by the school or social services etc if the case is more serious.
Lesley *
All the points you have raised are very valid but I cant help but feel that bullying will be around with us for many more years to come. As sad as it is there will always be children who are not raised in a stable or loving homes and their children will go and take it our on other innocent children on the streets or in schools. However I dont think it is fair to always blame parents. People tend to blame young mothers or single mothers but not all young mothers are the same so it is not fair to generalise. There are mothers out there that do their best to raise their child the best that they can and still the child reaches a certain stage in their lives and chooses to reble against thier parent. This I say from experience. We should ofcorse try our best to try and stop bullying but as it is still with us we can try to turn the negatives of bullying into positives. I see bullying as part of a young persons growing and maturing. Obviously there are diffrent levels of bullying but regarding minor innodents such as ‘name calling’ can be turned into confidence as we know that bullies are cowards and pick on other people because of envy and insecurity. If we take on this sort of mindframe them bullying can help us become stronger people as we become older and more mature.
If a parent was asked about how they treat their child etc bacause their child was a bully then i think it should be considered to investigate to see whether the household lifestyle is suitable for the young person to grow up in. if its not and this is why the young person feels the need to bully then the child should be re-homed to help the young person stop being a bully and to help the young people they have been bullying.
Lesley *
I feel they dont do enough because too many young people are still stuck in unhappy homes and i dont like the way if a young person wants to leave an unhappy home they are encouraged to make ammends and stay, id feel forced to stay and therefore feel that no one could help me. I think they should do more to look into how bullys are brought up and what kind of home life they lead, at the moment it seems they only look at severe cases and ignore the cases that could have the same level of negative effect on a child but just in not such a obvious way. For example if a child is being abused they would remove the young person but if a young person was being neglected, left to fend for themselves but becomes a bully due to lack of attension so likes being left alone all the time the socal services wouldnt take any action, the young person might get in trouble with the police or the school might try to stop them bullying but their unhappy household would stay the same.
Lesley *
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Posted by Lesley
02/11/2007 - 14:04
Bullying in streets and in schools
Bullying can be helped in many ways. Bullys on the steeets are most difficult but i think all bullys become who they are because of the way they were brought up. If the focus on good parenting was bigger less bully’s would be around, with a good upbringing comes a good child. I think the government should provide more money to help creating parent support organisations for first time parents and organisations that help all parents with troublesome children, giving adive on how to dicipline children and how to help them become mature, level headed young people. these organisations could be linked to the NHS so that it starts from as soon as the child is born and be compulsory for all parents to be in contact with. Too many mothers, young mothers espechially do not know how giving their children a poor upbringing can create a horrible bully without them even knowing it. Bullying in schools is too often ignored, schools could try alot harder to stop bullying. After a reported bully is identified this bully should be involved in a scheme where they are made to realise how bullying can have very serious effects on young people and how they could be pushing a young person to even commit sucicide when they just think its a bit of a joke. Too many bullys in schools are not reported to their parents. As soon as a child is reported as a bully their parents should be informed and and changes in the home environment that should be made to stop the young person being a bully should be identified by the school or social services etc if the case is more serious. Lesley *
Posted by floxy
02/11/2007 - 18:26
Bullying
All the points you have raised are very valid but I cant help but feel that bullying will be around with us for many more years to come. As sad as it is there will always be children who are not raised in a stable or loving homes and their children will go and take it our on other innocent children on the streets or in schools. However I dont think it is fair to always blame parents. People tend to blame young mothers or single mothers but not all young mothers are the same so it is not fair to generalise. There are mothers out there that do their best to raise their child the best that they can and still the child reaches a certain stage in their lives and chooses to reble against thier parent. This I say from experience. We should ofcorse try our best to try and stop bullying but as it is still with us we can try to turn the negatives of bullying into positives. I see bullying as part of a young persons growing and maturing. Obviously there are diffrent levels of bullying but regarding minor innodents such as ‘name calling’ can be turned into confidence as we know that bullies are cowards and pick on other people because of envy and insecurity. If we take on this sort of mindframe them bullying can help us become stronger people as we become older and more mature.
Posted by Karen Douglas
02/11/2007 - 14:08
Some good ideas Lesley what
Some good ideas Lesley what should be done if the parent doese not respond?
Posted by Lesley
02/11/2007 - 14:18
If parents do not respond
If a parent was asked about how they treat their child etc bacause their child was a bully then i think it should be considered to investigate to see whether the household lifestyle is suitable for the young person to grow up in. if its not and this is why the young person feels the need to bully then the child should be re-homed to help the young person stop being a bully and to help the young people they have been bullying. Lesley *
Posted by Karen Douglas
02/11/2007 - 14:26
social services are supposed
social services are supposed to look into such matters but do you feel they should do more?
Posted by Lesley
02/11/2007 - 14:39
Yes
I feel they dont do enough because too many young people are still stuck in unhappy homes and i dont like the way if a young person wants to leave an unhappy home they are encouraged to make ammends and stay, id feel forced to stay and therefore feel that no one could help me. I think they should do more to look into how bullys are brought up and what kind of home life they lead, at the moment it seems they only look at severe cases and ignore the cases that could have the same level of negative effect on a child but just in not such a obvious way. For example if a child is being abused they would remove the young person but if a young person was being neglected, left to fend for themselves but becomes a bully due to lack of attension so likes being left alone all the time the socal services wouldnt take any action, the young person might get in trouble with the police or the school might try to stop them bullying but their unhappy household would stay the same. Lesley *